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MarilynMonroe
Haveyoubeennaughtyornice?
-December25th,2015.
IfoundYesterday’sChristmasEvemeeCngandthevisitofthesocalledSantaClausthought-
provoking.
Oneofhisfirstwordstothechildrenwere:
IHaveyoubeennaughtyornice,Piotr?’
IAndyou,haveyoubeennice,Zosia?’
ThisiswhenIaskedmyselfwhetherIknewwhatthisnicenesswas.
Irevisitedthepast.
IrememberthatI,mybrotherandcousinswereaskedthesamequesConsseveralyearsago.
NotjustwhenSantaClausvisitedusonChristmasEve,buteveryCmethepersonaskingthequesCon
hadsomethingforus.
So,ifIamnice,Igetsomething.
IfIamnotnice,thereisnogi\…
Whatisit,then?
Whatisthisniceness?
WhenyousearchforthemeaningofthewordinthisparCcularcontextontheInternet,thefollowing
definiConscomeup:
Niceness(asopposedtonaughCness)isawayofbehavingindicaCngwellupbringingaswellas
obedientandcalmchild’sbehavior.
Thefirstfivesynonymsofthewordare:politeness,mannerliness,courtesy,obedience,savoir-faire.
SowhatdowemeanwhenweaskchildrensuchaquesCon?
Ibelieveweaskthemwhetherthey:
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Carriedoutorders?
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Listenedtowhatotherssaidandactedinaccordancewiththesewords?
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Smiledandwereniceeveniftheydidn’tlikewhatwasgoingon?
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Wereobedientandcalm(doesthismeanthatenergeCc,charismaCc,enthusiasCc,lively
childrencannotbenice?)?
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Fulfilledtheirmoms’,dads’,grandmas’andotherpeople’sexpectaCons?
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Hadnoproblemsatschoolandgotbestgradesonly?
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Probablyalotcouldbeaddedtothislist…