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orover-the-counterdrugsareunderestimated,theirefectsareasdangerous
asaddictiontopsychoactivedrugsorgambling.Itseemsworththinkingwhether
peoplewithasuperficialidentity,whoaredependentontheirimage,willbeable
toadequatelyperformtheirrolesofbringingupchildrenandinstillingsocially
acceptedvaluestothem.
Anotheraspectofcreatingtheperson’sselfisloyalty,i.e.keepingtheword.
Inourprofessionalandprivatelives,weofenhearmanywords(promises)sug-
gestingcertainactions,suchasnI’llcallyouinacoupleofdays”
,nI’llbringitto-
morrowlthedayafertomorrow”ornI’lldoitinamoment”
.Itwouldseemthat
theseareinnocentwords,buttheycarryapromiseofaconcreteaction(e.g.for
somepeople,thephrasenI’llgetbacktoyouinacoupleofdays”meansthecon-
tactintwotothreedays,whereasninamoment”meansnotintheeveningorto-
morrowbutwithinhalfanhour,sincethisishowtheywereraisedinthefamily
andatschool).Moreandmoreofenwecomeacrosssituationswherewords
meannothing,areso-callednemptywords”andthenthepeopleusingthese
wordsaresurprisedthattherearemisunderstandingsorthatsomeoneisangry
orofended.
Itisworthstressingherethatmakingemptypromisesisnotjustaproblem
foryoungpeople;theproblemexistsbothamongyoungpeopleandadults.
Youngpeopleareareflectionofwhatishappeningintheadultworld.Terefore,
ifadultsdonotpayattentiontowhattheysayandconsequentlydonotactac-
cordingtowhattheysay,whyshouldyoungpeopleactdiferently?Aferall,they
learnfromadults.Anotherissueisthewidespreadfailuretorespondtothefact
thatadultssaysomethingbutactcompletelydiferently.
Onestudypresentedresearchonthevalueofwordsamongyoungpeo-
ple.Unfortunately,theresultsareworrying.Foronly42.6%oftherespondents,
thewordstheysayhavesignificantmeaning.For52.2%ofyoungpeople,words
havenomeaningatall:eithertheydonotattachanyimportancetothem,orthey
treatthemascourtesyphrasesbecausesomethinghastobesaid(interestingly,
thisanswerwasindicatedbyallthemenparticipatingintheresearch).Asshown
bythemanyhoursofconversationswithyoungpeople,suchasituationiscer-
tainlynotduetoignorancebutduetoalackofinternalizationofcertainvalues,
identityconfusion,andalackofunderstandingoftheimportanceofkeeping
wordstoshapetheperson’simage(Karpuszenko,2016,p.28).
Teabovementionedresultsonlyconfirmthebeliefthatthereisaprob-
lemwithunderstandingthevalueofwords,withunderstandingthemeaning
ofwordsandthevalueofkeepingaword.Teso-calledpost-modernityand
