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Duringoneofourteameefings,myfriendfromschool,Kasia,mademerealizehowsheusedto
perceivememerelyafewyearsago.Shetoldmethatmyinsecurifies,fearsanddesireswereeasyto
noficewhenIwastalkingaboutmyuCerlyfascinafingsinglelife.WhenIclaimedthatitwasgreatto
bealone,thatIdidn’thavetoexplainmyselftoanyguy.WhenIironicallycommentedonourfriends
whohadtoleaveparfiesbecausetheirhusbandsandchildrenwerewaifingathome.Shetoldme
whatshesawthen.Shetoldmehowconfused,lonelyandunhappyIwasfromherpointofview.
Today,whenIthinkaboutthissituafion,IseehundredsofpeoplewhohidethemselveslikeIusedto
atthefime.Ididn’twanttoadmittomyselfwhatwasreallygoingoninsideofme.Mymessageto
theworldseemednatural,obvioustome,whereasotherssensedfalseness.Kasiawasrighttosense
whatIsubconsciouslythoughtandwanted.Yourintuifionandexperiencesquicklyevaluatewhat
otherssayandhowtheypicturetheworld,especiallywhenitishardtocallsomeoneauthenfic.
WhatisauthenCcity?
AccordingtothePWNPolishlanguagedicfionary,authenficmeans:
1.accordanttoreality,
2.notbeingacopy,forgeryorremake,
3.genuine,unfeigned,true,
4.unquesConable,great,realusedinordertoemphasizeafeature.
Thereareseveralwordslistedbelowthiswordinasynonymdicfionary.Whatarethey?
Bluntness,directness,unpretenfiousness,uninhibitedness,lackofarfificiality,naturalness,ease,
normality,openness,truthfulness,genuineness,straighforwardness,simplicity,honesty,spontaneity,
sincerity,courage,credibility,realness,objecfivity,beingdemocrafic,beingethical,fairplay,fairness,
honorableness,responsibility,truth,righteousness,decency,jusfice,faithfulness,originality,
confidence,realism,reality,accordancewithreality,equality,idenfity,communityandmanyothers.
Thus,weareabletodefinewhatIunderstandasAUTHENTICITY!
Ofcourse,itisaverysubjecfiveapproach.IbelieveitmeansthatIletmyselfbemyselftobewhatI
reallyam,alongwithallmyresources,strengthsandweaknesses.
Thisismydenifionofauthenficity.
Andthisiswhatthisbookisabout.
Weliveinaworldwherebeingyourselfisn’talwaysapopularsolufion.WeareconstantlyaCackedby
differentideasofwhoweshouldbeinordertobeconsideredsuccessful.So,whatkindofbehaviors
shouldwerepresentandwhichapproachesshouldwetakeinordertohaveachancetobecomeone
ofthechosenones?Theyteachuscertaintechniques,methods,strategiesfor…everything!Other
people’sexperiencesaresupposedtoteachusthatitisbesttobeadjustedandkeepouropinionsto
ourselves.Thereareenvironmentswherewedon’tevenhaveachancetospeakourmindsbecause
parficularbehaviorsareexpectedfromus.
Inordertobeabletoworkonyourauthenficity,youhavetorealizethatyoucan’tdoitovernight.
Therearenumerousfactorswhichcontributetothisprocess.Andevenwhenyoudecidethatyou
wanttofollowthispath,variousmechanismsexisfinginsideofyouandintheexternalworldwill
confinuetobeacfivated.What’smore,inmanysituafionsyouwillregardcertainthingsasyourown
truths.