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IrememberthefimewhenIfoundoutIhadhealthproblems.Ihadtoconfrontanewsituafionthen.
AnyonewhoeverwaitedformedicaltestsresultsknowswhatI’mtalkingabout.Alltheorieson
managingstress,emofionsorlogicalapproachtolifecangotohellthen.Eachcellofyourbodyis
raging.Youareanxious,scared.Fearisoverwhelming.Andthescenariosyourmindcreatescanbeat
award-winningmovies.
Thisisexactlywhathappenedtome.Awomanwhosaysthatfearisastateofmind;thatishasno
color,notasteorimage,andthatyoushouldholdyournerve.Andthenlifeappears.Andsuddenlyall
ofitconcernsyou,notsomeoneelse.Youneedtofaceit.Andthenyouhear:You’lllive,butpleasego
tohospitalassoonaspossiblesothatwecanfixit,andthemagicquesfionisasked:Areyouamom?
Youare?Great!BecauseIcan’tpromisewhattheresultswillbe…
Soyouthink:OK,ifImakeit,everything’sgoingtobedifferent.Iwilllivemylifetothefullest,Iwill
talkloudlyaboutmyneeds.Itwillbedifferent!
IrememberthatwhenIlefithehospitalinKatowice,Ithought:nomorejeans,loosesweatshirts,flat
shoes.Now,whenIsfillam,Ishallemphasizemyfemininity.EachdayItorturedmyselfwithsfileCos,
dresses,clingingblouses.IassumedthatifIwassfillalive,Ihadtoshowthecooler,beCer,skinnier
(afierall,youloseweightinhospital:))metoothers.ThisishowIsawtheworldbackthen.WasI
myself?Ibelieveso.Iwantedtobeauthenficatallcosts.IwantedtobeawomanIthoughtIshould
havebeen.
However,itwasn’tlongunfilIgotfiredbymynewperfectimageandgladlyjumpedintrousers,
sneakersandat-shirt.NowIrealizethatIdesperatelywantedtobearealwomanatthefime.And
frommypointofview,IcouldonlybecomeherbyfollowingthepaCerncreatedbynooneelsebut
me.Iusedtobelieveitwastruethen.
So,asyoucansee,ourbehaviorstendtobeunpredictable.
JuergenSchoemenaccuratelyapproachedthetopicinEvoluConofPersonality.TheBasicsof
BiostructuralAnalysis:
AccordingtotheDudendicConarydefiniCon,thetermIauthenCcity’meansItruthfulness’.Butwhat
doesitreallymean?TheAmericanpsychologist,CarlRogers,says:IWhatdoesbeingtruetoyourself
meantome?Ibelieveitmeansthat…youareapersonratherthananadvertorafaçade’.
ITruthfulness’isdirectlyrelatedtoIbeingatpeacewithyourself’andtoIindividualism’.Thereisa
sayingwhichputsitperfectly:Whenyoufollowsomeoneelse’straces,youdon’tleavetracesatall.
Nowadays,manyofusfeellongingforlife.Wedon’twanttochange,andweaimatItruthfulness’
andIauthenCcity’.
Theconclusionsmadeonthebasisofknowledgeofthehumanbiostructuremakeitpossibletoforma
definiConofauthenCcity,broadandpreciseatthesameCme:itisaharmonybetweengeneCcally
determinedbiostructureandacquiredbehaviors.
Asithasalreadybeenstated:ITheso\wareofacomputerwhichourbrainisshouldbecompaCble
withitsindividualoperaCngsystem’.ThisIcompaCbility’makesone’spersonalityauthenCc.And
authenCcityisnotonlythemostsignificantfactordeterminingourprofessionalandpersonalsuccess
(seep.132andfurther),butalsoanindispensablecondiConformaintainingmentalandphysical
health.Assoonasintheearly1920s,CarlGustavJungadmiledthatIachangeofone’stypemaylead
tophysiologicaldisorders.
Obviously,eachday,dependingonthesituaCon,wetakeonparCcularrolesanddemonstrate
parCcularpalernsofbehaviorswhichdonotsuitus(ifweareforcedtodoit).However,whilestriving
toIact’foralongCmeorIlearn’thewaysofbehavingwhicharenotcompaCblewithourindividual
